At 40, everyone is obligated to take that mid-life look at one's self and take an account of where they have been, where they wanted to go, the bitch that is reality, and where they will probably end up. After sailing my way through the the IT and infosec worlds from techie to interacting with C levels, it's been an interesting ride with potholes and great opportunities. I'll opine about what I've found to really matter, what doesn't, and what you need to do but you don't want to. I don't have all of the answers, but I have a map that will help you get where you really should go.